Mental Monday: Are You the Problem?

If you’re anything like me, then you might have a hard time keeping friends. God knows that I had people come in and out of my life like I was a Walmart. Come in get what you need to check out and come back when I become relevant again. Okay, maybe a bad analogy, but that’s not the point. Today, we’re going to talk about you being a problem.

I always told people if you found yourself in the same situation with people repeatedly, then chances are you’re the problem. Well, I’m here mind, body, and soul to tell you that is probably the biggest load of crap that I have ever told anyone. Thinking about it, how is it even possible for you to deal with the same thing repeatedly? The answer is simple, you’re not the problem, they are.

Why? Because if you think about yourself as a person and get to know you. You’ll come to realize that you’re a unique person in this world and that’s how it should be. This whole, being the same as everyone else is overrated and people know it. The people who walk out of your life do it because they can’t deal with your uniqueness.

We live in a world where a lot of people are narcissists and they love to control people. If that said narcissist can’t control you for whatever reason, then they’ll make you feel bad. By telling you that you’re the problem, and you’re not. There’s nothing wrong with your personality and no one can tell you that.

Just hear me out before we go. Think about all the people you met in your life and think about how they left. Did it end on bad terms, if so, I’ll talk about that later. If they just stopped coming around, or as the kids call it ghosting. Then think about that person that ghosted you and think about all the nice things that did for you. Was it for them or you? Sometimes it’s difficult to understand people, and that’s okay. All you need to know is if you were the problem…then we’ll talk about that later too, but if you weren’t. Then chalk up as a victory against negative energy.

You don’t need them and they don’t deserve you.

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